When you hear your inner child, you may think it’s for people who are going through severe mental problems. I used to think so.
Oh boy, was I wrong!
Connecting to my inner child was one of the best things I’ve done. It helped me open the door to a whole new world. It’s one of the key components that enables you to heal your relationship with yourself. I hear the same thing from many of my clients.
So what is your inner child?
Your inner child is a part of you, but a lot of us don’t even know that she exists. She is a little version of yourself from childhood, and what she wants is to be loved and cared for. She also wants something you wanted but couldn’t get when you were a kid, like feeling secure, peaceful, or spontaneous.
She is a pure and innocent part of you, unlike a part of you that thinks and acts like an adult, thinking logically, suppressing your feelings, and pretending to be strong. Your inner child doesn’t understand any of these rules and responsibilities.
All she wants is to be happy and loved. And the only person who can give her that is you.
So why is connecting to your inner child important?
#1: It helps you feel complete and balanced
As I mentioned, your inner child is a part of you. You may not feel or hear her, but she is there. So not connecting to her, let alone not acknowledging her, causes problems.
Have you ever felt empty within, even when everything seems fine, and you can’t think of any logical reasons why you feel that way? Or you know what you should do but just don’t feel like doing it? Or your heart starts beating fast when you see or hear something with no explanations?
These are examples of what happens when you are disconnected from your inner child. You can be successful in some areas of your life, but you always feel something is missing.
#2: It’s a way to pay attention to your subconscious mind
They say your subconscious mind is created sometime between birth and age 7. Everything in this period goes into your subconscious mind, and you spend the rest of your life trying to prove them right.
So if your parents told you that you are not good enough when you were a kid, you would spend your life proving that you are not good enough. You may choose a job that you are not that good at or get attracted to someone who is not interested in you.
All these experiences would result in making you believe that you are not good enough. And most of the time, you act that way without realizing it.
Your inner child is the representative of your subconscious mind.
She is pure and innocent, so her message may not come out as you imagine, but you can definitely feel it if you pay attention. Sweating, fast heartbeat, heavy chest, and heartache are some of the body sensations that could be related to her messages.
#3: It helps you heal your old emotional wounds
Your inner child is a little version of you who represents what’s in your subconscious mind. If your subconscious mind is full of sad and painful experiences, she will come out as a sad girl, and she makes you feel that way even if you have everything you want in life. If your subconscious mind is full of joy and happiness, she will come out as a happy girl and keep your spirit up even when you feel like nothing is working.
So acknowledging her is the first step you can take to learn what’s in your subconscious. And then, you will know which wounds are causing your inner child to act the way she is.
Facing these wounds may be painful, but they could be healed by simply connecting to your inner child and giving her what she needs. If she wants love, do what makes YOU feel loved. It doesn’t mean to have the person in your life love you more or look for a relationship.
Remember, you are the only one who can give her what she wants, so do anything that makes you feel loved. It could be taking a bath, cuddling with your fur babies, or spending time with your friends.
So start to pay attention to your inner child. See how she is feeling and what she is telling you.
The moment you become aligned with her, you will be better equipped to find and heal those emotional wounds that are doing you a disservice, and you’ll start seeing a pathway to spiritual and personal development.